Not only do we need to add flowers, but we also need to provide charcoal in the snow

Many people are willing to do things that add to the icing on the cake, while not many people are willing to do things that provide timely assistance.

In fact, adding icing on the cake and providing timely assistance are both ways of helping others. But which one is more memorable? This should seek answers from the recipients.

Imagine a scene like this: in winter, it snows heavily, but you only have a thin sweater to keep warm, watching large snowflakes blown into a dilapidated thatched cottage by the howling north wind. You're shivering with cold, but you don't even have a piece of charcoal. When you were alone and helpless, the door creaked and a person was covered in snow. He took out a large bag of charcoal from his arms, a bag of charcoal that could warm life! What do you think in your heart?

Mr. Qian Zhongshu lived a relatively peaceful life, but when he was stranded on a lonely island in Shanghai and wrote 'Fortress Besieged', he also felt embarrassed for a while. After dismissing the nanny, his wife Yang Jiang took care of the household chores, which was called "rolling sleeves and aprons as a way to keep things busy". At that time, no one bought his academic manuscripts, so his motivation to write novels was somewhat mixed with the element of earning money to support his family. He worked meticulously at 500 words a day, but his writing speed was definitely not commercial. Coincidentally, Director Huang Zuolin performed Yang Jiang's four act comedy "Satisfactory" and five act farewell "Fake to True", and timely paid the remuneration to help the Qian family overcome the difficulties. After many years, Huang Shuqin, the daughter of director Huang Zuolin, received the exclusive permission of Qian Zhongshu to start filming the TV series "Fortress Besieged" because she was pregnant with a handwritten letter from her father

The reason for the letter. Qian Zhongshu is a person who has been remembered for his life by someone else who has done something for him. Huang Zuolin's righteous assistance over 40 years ago was repaid by Qian Zhongshu many years later.

When a person is in distress and depression, the helping hand extended to them can create a lasting sense of gratitude. People's standards for money often vary greatly depending on their situation. Therefore, those who know how to give gifts may feel that "giving charcoal in the snow" is far more meaningful than "adding flowers to the cake".

Sending charcoal in the snow may not be a lot of effort for you, but if you can help others at a critical moment, they will also be grateful to you. For a poor person in a difficult situation, the help of a copper coin may make him hold onto it to endure extreme hunger and hardship, and perhaps even embark on a career and venture into his own wealthy world.

Before the Three Kingdoms War, Zhou Yu was not proud. He once served as an official under the warlord Yuan Shu and was appointed by Yuan Shu as a small resident commander, just a small county magistrate.

At this time, there was a famine in the area, and the harvest was bad. During the war, there were also many losses, and the demand for food became increasingly severe. The people living in the nest had no food to eat, so they ate tree bark and grass roots. Many people starved to death, and the army also lost its combat effectiveness. As a parent, Zhou Zuo was so anxious to see this tragic situation that he didn't know what to do.

Someone suggested that there is a philanthropic wealthy man named Lu Su nearby. His family has always been wealthy and he must have accumulated a lot of food. It's better to ask him to borrow it.

Zhou Yu brought his team to visit Lu Su at the door. As soon as the conversation was over, Xie Yu said directly, "To be honest, my brother, this time I'm visiting, I want to borrow some plant food

At first glance, Lu Su saw that Zhou Yu was handsome and handsome, and it was obvious that he was a talented person. He said that he would become a great master in the future. He doesn't care at all that Zhou Yu is just a small nest leader now. Ha Leng laughed and said, "This is just a small matter, I promise

Lu Su personally took Zhou Yu to inspect the granary. At this time, the Lu family had two granaries of grain, and Lu Su happily said:

Don't mention borrowing or not, I gave you one of the warehouses. "Zhou Yu and his subordinates were stunned by his generosity and generosity. You should know that in the year of famine, root food is life! Zhou Yu was deeply moved by Lu Su's words and actions, and the two of them immediately became friends.

Later on, Zhou Yu developed and became a general. He remembered Lu Su's kindness and recommended the stile to Sun Quan. Lu Su finally got the opportunity to pursue his career.

People always have a special liking for those who give charcoal in the snow. In times of adversity, we see the truth. When it comes to critical moments, we can help others remember. Giving gifts sometimes depends not on the quantity, but on whether others need them. For a thirsty person in the desert, a bag of gold is better than a jar of spring water, and he will be grateful to you from the bottom of his heart.

In addition, when someone needs help the most, appearing in front of them and giving them help and encouragement will not only earn their gratitude, but also establish a good image of your affection. For example, when relatives, friends or relatives pass away, gifts should be prepared in a timely manner to show condolences; When a friend's house encounters an unexpected disaster, you should visit them in a timely manner. Even if you give them a small gift, the gift is light and the affection is heavy, which will deepen the relationship between you and your friend; If a classmate or friend's child wants to take the college entrance examination, sending them some necessary information can make your relationship closer.